Two hearts become one. Life is perfect. Marriage, family and a life everlasting. That’s what every little girls dreams. Finding Prince Charming will make her life complete.
Reality is much different. Sure, as relationships develop the parties involved don’t realize how much they compromise and change for the potential love of their lives. If all works out, commitment and marriage follow. You’re ready to live the dreams the two of you’ve whispered to one another.
Life seems to move in hyper speed once careers and family fill the time the two of you used to share. Living in the same home, you spend more time running in different direction and start relying on yourself again for planning and execution. In quick bursts you share you’re new thoughts and dreams without much time to listen to your partner.
How do two people ever survive living together?
Are you ready for the answer?
Wait for it?
It’s too easy to one day wake up and find you’ve nothing in common. The children leave the nest and you’re left with one another, wondering what happened in the intervening years.
You’re two different people who shared the same stimulus in very different ways. Though it doesn’t feel like there’s commonality that kept you together for so many years.
Take for example coming to this same point and putting yourselves on a small vessel pointed to sea. You can imagine our surprise. After whispering to each other the one plan that kept us together through life’s chaos, we wake up to find we’re not sure what to do with it and each other when we arrive.
There’s comfort when you find you’re not the only cruisers who have experienced the same thing. Then you look around and find you are two different people and you ARE still together. In fact, you’re better than you were because of life’s experiences. So we take the opportunity to discover one another again. We learn we don’t need the big drama of plans of the past. We can live life with new discoveries about each other every day.
Where are you at in your life’s relationships? Can your relationship live without work, patience, perseverance, growth or understanding? How do you make life new again?